You are fearful-avoidant, they are avoidant
Nothing here forces either of you to stay in the room, which means the relationship can run for a long time at whatever depth requires the least from both of you.
Wants to be close and backs away from it, sometimes inside the same week.
Steady alone, and keeps one door half shut without ever deciding to.
What actually happens
You will be the one who eventually breaks the silence, and it will come out badly, because by then it has been stored up for months. They will experience that as an ambush from nowhere. From your side it has been building the whole time and you thought it was obvious. Neither of you is wrong about that.
What this one needs
Small and early beats honest and late. Say the annoying thing when it is still small enough to be boring — that is the entire skill, and it is much easier than the conversation it prevents. Avoidant partners deal fine with small specific complaints and badly with accumulated ones.
Something you can send
Small thing, saying it now so it doesn't turn into a big thing later:
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